By Dennis Dossett
I sometimes get a little annoyed (OK, that’s judgment—there must be a lesson here!) when I hear a commonly used phrase in daily parlance that frequently just doesn’t make any sense. I understand the use of “slang” and have often used such terms myself, but there is a difference between intentional use of a term for communication and the mindless repetition of a phrase regardless of context—it’s just meaningless words that seem either to be a fad or a generational jargon used for a while until they are replaced by—different meaningless words.
For example, a popular (and overused) response just a few years ago was the word, “like.” It used to be that “like” either meant “similar” or “akin to,” or it was used to express “to be fond of” or to “enjoy.” The word most often occurred only once in a sentence, but for a considerable length of time (and often still is) inserted three or more times in a single sentence. This is not an exaggeration. One of my favorite examples came from a celebrity guest on a late-night television talk show some years ago: “I mean its like—you know—like, I like it so much that—like—its just sort of like expected like all of the time.” Some of these “likes” appear to function with traditional meanings but often appear to be just “stuck into” a sentence for unknown reasons. Sometimes the word appears to function as (OK, “like” if you prefer) some strange kind of punctuation, but sometimes I just cannot decipher the speaker’s intent at all. Apparently their listeners often don’t know either based on responses such as (like?): “Like, do you mean like … ?”, etc. I just don’t “get it” (just a hint of judgment here!).
While I still hear too many “likes” occasionally, the practice seems to have been replaced (especially among younger people) with the word, “Perfect” in response to almost anything and everything (how mindless is that?). Several weeks ago I was making a bank deposit and the teller exclaimed, “Perfect!” when he counted the cash and got the same amount as I had recorded on the deposit slip. It was the third time I heard him use that phrase in the four minutes we interacted. So what was he referring to and what did it really mean? I have no clue. Later the same day I purchased a couple of items at a hardware store and put my credit card in the machine. When the charge went through the checkout clerk said, “Perfect!” as if she were somewhat surprised. Maybe I don’t look like a creditworthy customer or something, but to me it was a mindless (and meaningless) communication with no apparent purpose. There I go being judgmental again. I guess nobody is perfect … BUT …
In last month’s newsletter, I wrote about “Perfection,” arguing that the concept is fine as a goal, but has little utility on the earth plane except as a primary basis for judgment of both others and ourselves. (Is there a theme here?) I even included a line that I have personally used for over five decades: “If you are looking for perfection, you are definitely on the wrong planet!” Life is not about perfection; it is about growth, and that is why everything in life is Perfect. That is why we are all here together on this earth plane.
• “You are nature. You are already perfect, peaceful, and powerful. You don’t need to become anything. You simply need to remember yourself.” ~ Vironika Tugaleva (American author, life coach, & inspirational speaker)
• “You are all perfect and expanding; you are all adored and worthy; you are all here having your exposure to experiences and doing the best that you can from where you are. You have not been sent here in a test or trial; you’re here as creators as part of an expanding Universe. You can’t have it both ways. You can’t have, at the root of that which you are, Well-Being, and then have that same root of Well-Being have the capacity to pronounce you evil. It is vibrationally impossible. That judging, vengeful God is manufactured from humans’ place of deepest despair.” ~ Abraham (Collective consciousness of Spirit as channeled by Esther Hicks; Fort Collins, CO, June 19, 2004)
• “Remember, in the vast infinity of life, all is perfect, whole, and complete … and so are you.” ~ Louise Hay (1926-2017; American motivational author, speaker, & Founder of Hay House publishing)
And this isn’t a recent idea by any means:
• “How wonderful! How wonderful! All things are perfect exactly as they are!” ~ Gautama Buddha (c. 563-483 BCE; Indian spiritual teacher and founder of Buddhism)
• “Every human being’s essential nature is perfect and faultless, but after years of immersion in the world [read, ‘conditioning’] we easily forget our roots and take on a counterfeit nature.” ~ Lao Tzu (604-527 BCE; Chinese philosopher)
Oh, and that “judgment” thing I’m still working on? Is there nothing that deserves judgment to some degree? That’s a pretty hard one at times, but:
• “It may surprise you to know that there is nothing ‘evil’ in the world. Everything is perfect and everything works in perfect order.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #252, October 23, 2009)
Life is indeed all about growth and, in my truth, everything in life—the good, the bad; the beautiful, the ugly—everything is for one purpose: to present each of us with the opportunity to grow, to become a better version of ourselves. Life just awaits our choice to commit and to follow through. Every one of us is exactly where we need to be right here, right now, for our own soul evolution. We are perfect—just as we are—for taking the next step in our own, individual, journey. Everything is Perfect.
• “The root of a bulb which shall produce a white lily is an unsightly thing; one might look upon it with disgust. But how foolish we should be to condemn the bulb for its appearance when we know the lily is within it. The root is perfect after its kind; it is a perfect but incomplete lily, and so we must learn to look upon every man and woman, no matter how unlovely in outward manifestation; they are perfect in their stage of being and they are becoming complete. Behold, it is all very good.” ~ Wallace D. Wattles (1860-1911; American author; The Science of Being Great, 1910)
The (lower) Self thrives on—even feeds on—negativity, which is why expecting perfection from anything and anyone (including ourselves) is always self-defeating. But learning to recognize that everything and everyone (including ourselves) is already perfect automatically reframes every situation as positive. It “knocks the props” out from judgment and invites us to open the door to understanding, compassion, and eventually unconditional love (see my newsletters, “Unconditional Love,” and “Further Comments on Unconditional Love”).
So, yes, I’m still working on that “judgment” lesson (I am a perfect “work in progress” after all), but that’s okay—that’s part of why I’m here on the earth plane. At least I have gained an entirely new perspective when someone comments, “Perfect!” The Universe is just reminding me of the profound implications of that statement, and it just doesn’t bother me anymore. In fact, I smile with recognition when I hear it (“Thank you, Spirit!”). The opportunities placed before me to deal with that (and other) lessons are, indeed, perfect for my needs! And, believe it or not, the learning opportunities in your life are perfect for you as well.
Have a great month!