The Gift that Keeps on Giving©
The Holiday Season is now history and, for most people, the annual emphasis on gifts and gift-giving has given way to other concerns for the next few months—until we do it all over again. But there is one special gift in particular that all too often is never considered and, even when it is, it’s often relegated to the “bone piles” of impracticality, impossibility, just plain irrelevant, or only appropriate for some recipients but not for others. I think a lot of this stems from an incomplete and/or ill-informed understanding of this gift and its daily role in each of our lives. One of the most important aspects of this understanding is that this gift is a “Gift that Keeps on Giving.” Not only that, it can be given at any time and should be given many times, even to the same person. So, what is this “special gift?” In a word, “Forgiveness,” and it always has to do with learning life lessons:
• “The most important lesson on the road to spiritual maturity is how to truly forgive.” ~ Lisa Prosen (Author, coach & speaker)
When giving gifts, it is a wonderful thing to choose a gift that the recipient would like or enjoy. But if the only reason you are giving it is because of how you think they will feel in receiving it, well, that is exactly what a “people pleaser” would do. Wouldn’t it be far better to give a gift that helps you to experience the joy of giving it as well? In my experience, such a gift has always been very much appreciated (often with glee and obvious joy) by the recipient. And the gift of forgiveness turns out to be two gifts in one, truly a “Gift that Keeps on Giving.”
This is obvious when Karma is involved, but it is important even without considering karma. The act of forgiving others has personal benefits as well. In other words, a “Gift that Keeps on Giving.”
• “Make peace with those who have hurt and injured you, whether physically or emotionally. People who hurt you in some form do this because they very often [have] past life memory of pain and hurt. They cannot deal with their own anger and frustration and often take it out on those around them. Hate nobody. Be angry with nobody. Do not hold on to anger and hatred either. If you have this in your heart for any … soul, … let it go and allow forgiveness to replace the negative emotions.” ~ Maitreya (channeled by Margareet McElroy)
• “Forgiveness is the key to healing the heart, the soul, and the body. When you access some of your previous lives, you can use these events to help the healing process. With an open heart full of love, you can achieve so much in this lifetime. This is for your greatest spiritual growth. When you open up your heart and forgive others, your life will become easier and flow in a more harmonious way.” ~ Douglas De Long (Canadian spiritual counselor & past-life therapist)
• “Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.” ~ Lawana Blackwell (Author; The Dowry of Miss Lydia Clark, 1999)
• “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis B. Smedes (Christian author and theologian)
• “Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.” ~ Archbishop Desmond Tutu (South African cleric; 1984 Nobel Peace Prize)
• “It takes a very highly evolved soul who can forgive another, but an even bigger soul who can forgive oneself.” ~ Maitreya
But here’s the rub—the paradox—embodied in what I call the “Empty Cup Principle: You cannot pour from an empty cup; you cannot give what you don’t have.” In other words, the personal benefits of forgiving others can only be found in unconditional forgiveness. Unconditional means (a) no strings attached, and (b) you must truly and unconditionally forgive yourself before forgiving others. Anything short of unconditional means that you are still a slave to judgment, the ancestor of so many negative human emotions and one of the main factors in What’s Holding You Back? (Book 2 in the Dancing with the Energy series).
Let’s face it. There is often a lot of guilt, disappointment, anger, blame, etc. (judgment) directed at oneself as well as others. But none of these negative emotions serve us.
• “Forgiveness is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself on the spiritual path. If you can’t learn to forgive, you can forget about getting to higher levels of awareness [a.k.a., soul evolution].” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer (Author & spiritual teacher)
• “Forgive yourselves for anything you have persecuted yourself for and open up to unconditional love!” ~ Maitreya
So, how do we do that? Detachment is a learning process and comes only with Forgiving. I have written about this previously (see Detach, But Don’t Be Detached!), but there are many other sources who express it so beautifully. In various newsletters and Facebook posts, Maitreya tells us:
• “Detaching emotionally is the most important lesson you can learn and do for yourself.” … “The purpose of your life is to learn detachment so that you do not get carried away with emotions.” … “In order to reach ascension and enlightenment, one needs to have controlled (detached from) the emotional body.” … “Let go of (detach from) the emotions and the emotional body and you can fly! That is how you can raise your vibration.” … “Once the blocks of the emotional body are removed (detached from), the world is yours.” … “The peace that passes all understanding is a situation of detachment where no one mirrors for you anymore, nothing concerns you, and you have no fear.” … When you are angry with someone and cannot forgive, you are only causing upset and hurting yourself; the person you are angry or upset about has usually moved on. The more you hold on to it, the more it builds. Eventually it begins to eat away at you physically in some way! Let go of (detach from) all issues to do with others and ask yourself ‘What am I learning from this?’ And then move on yourself. … You can forgive but not forget, but even with forgetting, it is best if you do [forgive], for it could be karmic and out of your control. Sometimes it means forgiving yourself. But whatever you have to do, forgive!” …
• “In the Universe there is an equal and opposite force. What you project outward is what you receive back! I [Maitreya] can hear many of you saying, ‘But I will never forgive the person who hurt me; they did so much damage’—or words to that effect. But the energy you waste in venting that anger—in not forgiving someone—can prevent you from moving forward in vibration and prevent you from satisfying the desires you would like. … You can forgive but not forget. However, it is better to forgive and forget. Do not stop the flow of energy coming into your being; it is life-giving energy. By stopping the flow with anger, grudges and other emotions, you actually shorten your life. Let go of all of your anger and frustration toward another. What a waste of energy!” … “As one releases the anger and frustrations, one will usually see a change in their own energy—especially to manifest something—within a few earth weeks. It is not easy letting go, but this is energy you do not need. Once you release (detach) and forgive and forget, you then open up to a higher energy, and this can do so much good in your life. … It is not easy to forgive and forget—letting go of grudges and anger. However, if the world can do this on an individual level, then the world can heal on a global level. Think of that as you let go of the energy of frustration and anger. In your own small way, you can change the world’s energy.”
Abraham (the collective consciousness of Spirit channeled by Esther Hicks) discusses forgiveness at length. For example:
• “What forgiveness is, is the releasing of (detaching from) resistance because you were holding yourself apart from who you really are by pushing against whatever it was.” … “All this forgiveness stuff is all well and good, but it’s got you pointed toward the thing that you’re trying to overcome. And you can’t look at the thing you’re trying to overcome and overcome it, it just keeps getting bigger and bigger. So, forgiveness is about forgetting what you need to forgive.” … “Forgiveness is withdrawing attention from (detaching from) the thing that’s keeping you out of the Vortex. That’s all forgiveness is. It’s turning your attention to something that puts you in the Vortex instead of toward something that keeps you out of the Vortex. So, forgiveness is just returning to your Vortex. That’s all it is. It’s being Who-You-Really-Are [i.e., Higher Self].”
• “To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds.” … “We forgive by releasing (detaching from) all resentment, anger, and bitterness and thus set ourselves free from the negative feelings that weaken us. First, we have to get past blame. Then we have to learn to send love to all. Taking all the anger and hatred that is standing in your way and replacing it with love is the most healing thing you can do. Fill your soul with love, rather than anger, and so many things will change in your life.” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
• “Forgiveness is the act of unconditional love. ~ Maitreya
• “True forgiveness is when you can say, ’Thank you for that experience.’” ~ Oprah Winfrey
• “True forgiveness is not an action after the fact; it is an attitude with which you enter each moment.” ~ David Ridge
• “Forgiveness is key. You cannot move forward until you have forgiven.” ~ Maitreya
Think about the “Gift that Keeps on Giving” as you ponder your New Year’s Resolutions.
Have a great month!