The Importance of Emotional Detachment

We are living in a time of great change along with the opportunity for accelerated soul evolution individually and collectively. As always, change brings chaos and uncertainty as we are moving out of the old comfort zone, moving into a new energy and building a new reality for ourselves. Raising our vibration and consciousness individually and collectively are inevitable in the process of change. We are now in the process of great change, although it is positive in the long run, it will not be easy. As the deep buried energies are brought to the surface, it often causes intensive emotional reaction – fear, anger, resentment, hatred, insecurity, prejudice, and all sorts of negativity, etc.  All the problems and issues that we have experienced and have never dealt with or completely resolved are brought to the surface for us to deal with as an individual, a group, a race or a nation. Often, these issues and problems are very deep and painful, because we have never dealt with or let go of the energy, instead, we repressed it deeply in our subconscious and moved on while trying to forget the situation or issue as if it never existed. As the issues resurface, we act and react to these issues and energies differently according to our soul memory and how we experienced them in the past, often completely oblivious to what is really going on!

These old problems and issues can give the Self part of humanity the opportunity to sabotage the process of change by stirring up the old emotions and feeding the human ego. Whenever the Self is in control, there is conflict, dissension and fighting, it leads to an endless loop. As such, we all get caught up in our own emotions as well as the collective emotions, the bigger picture or perspective is unable to be seen by us and the real reason or the root of the emotional energy is repressed again. Therefore, it is important to remember that what we see or feel on the surface is not the real issue. It is an illusion. If we are involved in it emotionally, we can be easily trapped by the illusion, and we will surely lose our objectivity and clarity. To put it bluntly, whenever we point a finger at someone, or we blame someone emotionally and righteously, it is from the Self part of us, and it is not from the Higher Self because we are being manipulated by our emotions, and we cannot see things clearly or objectivity. Honestly, it is ourselves we need to point the finger at and ask the question, “What should I be learning or seeing from this situation that is triggering my emotional reaction.” If we do not release our emotions constructively, we will be continually controlled by them.

Blaming others or pointing the finger at someone for our own emotional pain is not the solution for any problems and issues, and only creates more pain, dissension, disharmony and karma! As someone posted on FB, “The universe is not punishing you or blessing you with Karma. The universe is responding to the vibrational energy you are sending out.” – from FB unknown source. The outer world is a creation and a manifestation of our inner world – thoughts, words, emotions, feelings, choices, decisions, actions and reactions, etc. As such, here comes the question each of us needs to ask ourselves, “what type of world do we want to live in?” Think about it carefully and thoroughly, then make the necessary changes and adjustments to manifest it.

First and foremost, we must learn to detach from our own emotions as well as the emotions from those around us. Looking at our reality, whom do we have problems with? Whom do we have strong emotions towards to? Why do they upset us? What are emotional issues they stir up within us? Write them down them one by one.

Secondly, release them one by one constructively through journaling, constructively venting the emotion in some fashion (I use a plastic children’s baseball bat to punch my bed), shouting to the air, crying, physical exercising, singing or meditating. You need to do this alone, make sure to not throw your emotional energy to anyone. You can repeat this process as many times as you can till you no longer feel the intense emotions.

Thirdly, once the emotion is gone, you will definitely feel much lighter and better, then, you can look at the situation objectively. Ask yourself the question, “What are they mirroring for me? What are they teaching me? What do I need to learn from it?” When we ask ourselves such questions without emotions, we can always get the answer for what we need to learn and do. Then, we need to let go of our pride and follow the answers that we are given. In this way, we can make peace with ourselves and with those whom we have issues with. This is a true forgiveness. Forgiveness without releasing the deep buried emotional energy is not true forgiveness, because the emotional energy that still resides in your energy field will keep you tied to the people and situation until you release it.

We all come back to deal with our chosen karma, past life energy and life lessons. Those whom we have strong emotional interactions – family members, siblings, relatives, friends, colleagues, co-workers, bosses, employers, etc. are often the ones whom we have a past life connection with and we have a soul contract to work out. We come back to meet again in order to break the cycle which has been running for many incarnations. With the outstanding issues, whether it is a karma, or a past life, or a life lesson, if we do not clear the emotional pain, and restore the balance, we will keep coming back, incarnating with the same souls again and again. As each incarnation goes by, the karmic tie becomes harder and harder to break, and it becomes a vicious cycle. Unfortunately, we are the ones who have decided to deal with these deep emotional pains, and we are the ones who are responsible for breaking the cycle! We are the creator of our own reality. What kind of reality do you wish to live in?!