During the month of February, much of the Earth plane looks to the energy of Love and what it means for them in their life. One of the aspects of Love that is often not explored is that of vulnerability. For many people, vulnerability is a negative term, and they feel it represents weakness, or being lesser than someone else. However, Vulnerability’s true definition is to allow another person to be permitted into your life and heart.

What that means is that being vulnerable is letting someone else see you as you truly see yourself. That part is not easy, because the Self will tell you to hide a certain part or certain experience, to hold onto to secrets, and to prepare for the possibility of being hurt. But, all of these actions are based on fear; fear of abandonment, fear of betrayal, fear of judgment, and so forth.

To allow yourself to truly be vulnerable, to fully open up your heart chakra, and your true essence to another person, takes great strength. It takes the strength to ignore the Self, strength to communicate without fear, and strength to share all of you without the need to justify yourself.

Many people get down on themselves during this time of year. I know when I was single; Valentine’s Day was a day of distraction and pretending like I was happy. But, that’s the thing; Valentine’s Day is not a day for couples. It is a time to appreciate anyone you love, including yourself. Vulnerability begins with you being honest with yourself, and understanding all parts of who you are. Every person has “good” and “bad” qualities, usually assessed by the Self to be categorized that way. We are so conditioned to overemphasize the “good”, and to downplay, or even ignore, the “bad.”

This conditioning is based on the flood of messages we receive in our lives, whether from parents, the media, or our friends. There is always going to be someone else outside of you giving you the message that some part of you is undesirable, but that is not the truth. Their comments are only a reflection of their unexpressed fears and doubts about themselves. Only you can accept yourself for who you are, and only you need to do so. Once you have true acceptance for yourself, only then can you truly open up to love. Because love is based on sharing in your vulnerability, sharing in all who you are, and if you are ignoring or running away from a part of yourself, neither you nor anyone else can truly love you.

Love is about sharing, about feeling true compassion for another person. Love is not about fear. As long as you hold onto your fear, you cannot possess the entirety of love that The Ultimate Being (God) has for you.  Look at where your fears lie within. Ask yourself, why do you feel uncomfortable telling others about those things that your Self deems to be “bad” about yourself? Once you can share all parts of who you are, only then can you possess true strength of vulnerability.