Friends Compatibility and Conflict Report for
Birth Data for Margaret McElroy:
October 19, 1946
Birth Data for Alan McElroy:
October 17, 1955
Your birth chart interpretation is based on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information, are listed below:
Positions and Data for Margaret McElroy:
Sun position is 25 deg. 14 min. of Libra
Moon position is 16 deg. 30 min. of Leo
Mercury position is 16 deg. 16 min. of Scorpio
Venus position is 1 deg. 00 min. of Sagittarius
Mars position is 16 deg. 51 min. of Scorpio
Jupiter position is 5 deg. 02 min. of Scorpio
Saturn position is 7 deg. 56 min. of Leo
Uranus position is 21 deg. 36 min. of Gemini
Neptune position is 8 deg. 59 min. of Libra
Pluto position is 13 deg. 12 min. of Leo
Asc. position is 12 deg. 55 min. of Libra
MC position is 17 deg. 14 min. of Cancer
2nd cusp position is 11 deg. 04 min. of Scorpio
3rd cusp position is 10 deg. 01 min. of Sagittarius
5th cusp position is 16 deg. 26 min. of Aquarius
6th cusp position is 14 deg. 34 min. of Pisces
Tropical/KOCH Standard time observed. GMT: 05:31:00
Time Zone: 0 hours West. Lat & Long: 52 N 58 1 W 10
Positions and Data for Alan McElroy:
Sun position is 23 deg. 32 min. of Libra
Moon position is 15 deg. 05 min. of Scorpio
Mercury position is 15 deg. 34 min. of Libra
Venus position is 5 deg. 49 min. of Scorpio
Mars position is 2 deg. 42 min. of Libra
Jupiter position is 26 deg. 03 min. of Leo
Saturn position is 20 deg. 17 min. of Scorpio
Uranus position is 2 deg. 07 min. of Leo
Neptune position is 27 deg. 49 min. of Libra
Pluto position is 28 deg. 08 min. of Leo
Asc. position is 18 deg. 59 min. of Scorpio
MC position is 4 deg. 53 min. of Virgo
2nd cusp position is 14 deg. 33 min. of Sagittarius
3rd cusp position is 15 deg. 32 min. of Capricorn
5th cusp position is 29 deg. 38 min. of Pisces
6th cusp position is 24 deg. 23 min. of Aries
Tropical/KOCH Standard time observed. GMT: 16:35:00
Time Zone: 8 hours West. Lat & Long: 47 N 39 32 117 W 25 30
Welcome to the Compatibility and Conflict Report for Business and Friendship and the myriad ways of expressing the continual dance of relationship. This report is based on methods employed through years of working with relationships of all kinds, observing them and analyzing the lives of the famous and infamous. The contacts described in this program are certainly not all the combinations possible between two individuals. But they are the core patterns of relationship analysis that I begin with in determining areas of compatibility and potential conflict between individuals. These basic points of contact are analyzed to arrive at an interpretation of what is central for a strong relationship or for one that teaches something of importance and leaves a lasting impression.
In many of the interpretations, I’ve described the highest potential that one can strive for with a particular combination. Yet this is only a potential and being human we have complex emotions and contradictory issues and reactions at any given time in our lives. Use this report as a guide to make your relationships as rewarding and fulfilling as you possibly can while knowing that your relationships are simply mirroring your own soul’s struggles. Each relationship will fulfill something within you and challenge you to look at your shadow and transform yourself. Sometimes this means staying in a relationship and sometimes the learning process requires that you let the relationship go. These decisions are never easy and they should only be made after careful and truthful introspection, reflection and guidance. But ultimately, these decisions are yours and yours alone to make. Remember that although you may have some difficult areas of relating with a particular person, it is in those areas that you can learn the most about yourself and others and grow in wisdom. It would be a mistake to look for a business partner or friend with whom you have no disagreements at all and this kind of relationship is a fantasy, rarely if ever, a reality.
Thank you for purchasing the report and I hope it is meaningful and useful to you.
Special thanks to John Flagg for unflagging editorial support.
To the mystery and magic of relationship chemistry, Dorothy Oja Copyright 2002
Chapter 1: Bonds For Energy, Fun and Lasting Impressions
This section is based on the idea that there are three basic needs in every relationship:
Interest, energy and stimulation.
Enjoyment, abundance, expansion of awareness/possibilities and sense of contentment or happiness.
Commitment, consistency, teaching each other, sharing values or reaffirming/confirming something essential in each other.
The sort between your charts is for eleven separate aspects that define energy, fun and lasting impressions between you. Most strong relationships have at least four to six of these aspects between their charts.
Alan McElroy’s Moon Conj Margaret McElroy’s Mars:
Core Themes: This aspect generates quick responses toward each other, which could be startling but at the same time stimulating. You’ll find you want to know more about what makes this person tick, since they arouse your interest. The aspect encourages alertness to behavioral nuances and the shifting moods in each of you. Because there is immediacy to this aspect there is also potential volatility. Feelings can be hurt or offense easily taken. There is typically a hyper awareness of the other’s sensibilities or vulnerabilities. Because this aspect is geared toward stimulating feelings, you need to learn to listen to each other and compromise. Ignoring the emotions that you generate in each other won’t serve you well in the long run. There will be no problem in being direct about matters of mutual concern. However, saying things in anger or going over the top one too many times will eventually damage the relationship you want to build or maintain. Some sparring is part of this aspect and occasion for healthy, even heated debate is normal. But be careful of harshness or impatience and causing permanent damage to the relationship.
There is a strong emotional connection between you that you will both feel quickly and want to respond to. You feel energized, excitable or enthused in each other’s company. As you get to know each other better, you will find that you respond just as easily to perceived negative expressions as you do the positive ones. Personal idiosyncrasies can easily get magnified and annoyances result, which can then lead to arguments. Directness is one thing, attacking is quite another — make sure that you know the difference. Let off steam on your own before discussing a difficult issue. The same energies that make this aspect quick to respond also make it quick to anger. If you let it, it can be just as quick to forget and move on, unless of course, you hit below the belt or play dirty. This aspect can both maintain its exciting and stimulating energy and make for a sparkling friendship or it can degenerate into habitual argumentativeness. It depends on how the two of you negotiate it.
Margaret McElroy’s Moon Square Alan McElroy’s Asc.:
Core Themes: This aspect requires that you explore the dynamic of emotion and emotional action or that you are willing to act on the emotional needs required of your relationship. The intent of this aspect is to promote a higher degree of sensitivity and awareness in yourselves in relation to others and their needs. Issues revolve around the conflicting demands and responsibilities of work and home life and the ability to take and maintain a position in a number of relationships that are emotionally important to you.
You are drawn to each other on an emotional basis, which may not be easy to define, at least not at first. There can be a tendency for one of you to want to mother the other or for one of you to want to be mothered. Be aware of too much neediness in your relationship. One of you may have difficulty with excessive displays of emotion or being hypersensitive. Feelings seem to burst from either of you almost unexpectedly and in a flood. After one too many emotional outbursts, one or both of you may be reluctant to fully express yourself for fear of negative reactions from the other. If at all possible, curb your reactiveness or you are in danger of damaging your friendship. By the same token, unmet or long-ignored feelings can also hurt your relationship. Seek a balance between the two extremes.
Margaret McElroy’s Moon Square Alan McElroy’s Saturn:
Core Themes: This aspect is a binding one but has its share of struggles. The bond is one of a perceived (or real) responsibility toward each other. The two of you will have challenges and obstacles to overcome and obligations to shoulder. The intent of this energy pattern between you is to help you develop a greater understanding of trustworthiness and reliability, exactly what that means and where and how these concepts fit into your relationship.
Your friendship is challenged from the get go with difficult circumstances, strong differences in disposition or other environmental, ethnic or religious conditions. Still, there is something that holds the two of you two together because there is something deep that must be resolved. You both feel a sense of responsibility toward each other, but this can be masked as resentment for the work that needs to be done within the boundaries of your friendship. Avoiding the issues that arise between you will make things harder. Instead, confront the issues head-on no matter how unpleasant, and work through them. You will both be better for it and will feel as though a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Betraying each other’s trust will probably end your friendship quicker than you can say the word. Difficult as it may sometimes be, you are important to each other and you rely on each other’s ethical conduct.
Margaret McElroy’s Sun Sextile Alan McElroy’s Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to have you experience large doses of good fortune, joy, exuberance, adventure, opportunity and optimism. Your lives will open up and expand as a result of your relationship. There is a distinct desire for comfort and ease but, if not balanced well, this can lead to laziness or procrastination. The challenge in this aspect is to maintain the health of both the mind and body. There’s an inclination to take a philosophical attitude toward life experiences and to gain from life’s richness and variety.
You will desire travel and other types of learning and personally expanding experiences. However, there’s a potential laziness to this combination, so not following through on commitments can be problematic. Learning of many different types, philosophy and even participation in religious or spiritual rituals can be key elements interwoven in any activities that you choose together. Hiking, the outdoors or other physical sports are popular choices for time you share together. In general, this combination of energies between you makes for enjoyable moments with enhancement of fun, heart, warmth, good will and endless possibilities for expressing your creative selves. You encourage a generous spirit in each other whenever you are together and this easily spreads to others you meet.
Alan McElroy’s Venus Conj Margaret McElroy’s Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to expand the full potential of your creative expression while still taking into account potential consequences and risk factors. There is no expansion or expression without universal feedback, and this aspect teaches you responsibility for your use of energy, your own, or the other person’s. You seek a certain amount of variety and can tolerate a fair amount of risk-taking. Your over-optimism, however, can be like wearing rose-colored glasses, and you’ll need to take them off now and then to deal with the important practical realities of life.
With Venus conjunct Jupiter there’s a special affection between you, and you enjoy each other’s company. There is a natural inclination to be generous with each other. This is an aspect of genuine affection and can make up for other difficult aspects you may share. Others will want to bask in the humorous, open and positive aura that you create. You will draw social relationships toward you, easily make connections and participate in many social activities, if you so choose. Travel possibilities are likely, as well as a wide range of learning situations. You are drawn to any activities that expand possibilities and offer positive experiences.
Margaret McElroy’s Venus Square Alan McElroy’s Jupiter:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to expand the full potential of your creative expression while still taking into account possible consequences and risk factors. There is no expansion or expression without universal feedback and this aspect teaches you responsibility for your use of energy, your own, or others. You seek variety, as this is a renaissance energy and you can tolerate a fair amount of risk-taking. Your over-optimism, however, and somewhat laissez-faire attitude, are like wearing rose-colored glasses and you’ll need to take them off now and then to deal with the important practical realities of life.
The two of you will discover much to enjoy about each other and will find laughter and fun in each other’s company. The encouragement you offer each other can prove to be invaluable, especially in terms of social connections and introductions to others. You are likely to belong to a wide network of friends, or your circle will increase as a result of your friendship. The pleasure principle is strong but it sometimes leads to laziness or a decidedly permissive attitude. It is in these areas that there can be potential conflict between you. Then again, your political, social ideologies can be very different and cause friction, at times. A sport or learning experience of some kind would be a good outlet for your restless energies. The fondness you develop for each other can last a long time and sweeten your life immeasurably.
Margaret McElroy’s Mars Conj Alan McElroy’s Asc.:
Core Themes: The immediacy of this aspect can be stimulating or disconcerting. Either way, it will initiate a greater awareness of yourself in relation to people and situations around you. The intent of this aspect is to fire up your energies and galvanize your self-assertive capabilities. It encourages self-understanding, initiation and self-protection if necessary.
You’re either initially attracted to the other person or put off by his or her behavior, depending on other factors in each of your charts. You certainly won’t be able to ignore each other. There is challenge in this friendship because you will often be too blunt and direct with each other and inadvertently hurt each other’s feelings. Your relationship needs physical activity and newness but it can also generate impatience and selfishness. There’s excitement when the two of you are together and you will seek out activities to utilize these energies. Games, outdoor activities, hiking and competitive sports can be some of those ways. Being allies or advocates for the same side instead of competitors will make your friendship a bit easier.
Chapter 2: Emotions and Communication
The following aspects detail the quality of your emotional connection, your basic level of comfort and your ease or difficulty in communicating, and discussing emotions and simply understanding where each of you is coming from. Additionally, these aspects help describe how you reason together and resolve issues or problems.
Margaret McElroy’s Moon Square Alan McElroy’s Moon:
Core Themes: Dissimilar emotional needs are indicated and to some extent different dispositions. Some of each other’s daily habits can be annoying or irritating, making sharing the same physical spaces for long periods of time more difficult. In matters of timing, it is likely that, occasionally, you will be on a different page than your partner and operate on another timing pattern. The intent of this aspect is to find your way to emotional understanding despite different sensibilities and to respect the feelings of the other person although unlike your own.
The two of you operate quite differently internally, which stems very much from your upbringing and your response to your early conditioning. These habits and predilections can be difficult or impossible to change, and you may simply have to accept the differences in each other if you value other aspects of your friendship. Discussing your feelings openly is a crucial part of this energy combination. There is a good chance that, once you really understand the feelings behind the attitude or habitual responses of your friend, greater tolerance will result. On the other hand, once your friend understands how you are affected by a particular response or habit, modifying the offending or annoying behavior is part of the compromise necessary for relationship harmony. This can certainly be a moody relationship with emotional skirmishes too frequent for your taste. There is more tendency for misunderstanding than not. Still, finding a way to work things out will bring both of you great richness of spirit and wisdom.
Alan McElroy’s Mercury in Libra, and Margaret McElroy’s is in Scorpio:
Core Themes: Outlook, perspective or styles of problem solving, even communicating, are the core of this aspect. This combination is more challenging because your mode of thinking and communicating tends to be quite different. The intent of this energy combination is to resolve issues of communication, speaking, reasoning etc., so that you can reach solutions and conclusions in creative and original ways.
As you get to know each other, you will quickly discover that you think very differently either about specific issues or simply in the way you reason. This isn’t necessarily negative at all, because you can learn a great deal from each other’s different perspectives on things. Although at times it will require patience, the process can become a most valuable lesson in communication and may very well change your perspective. I guess it depends on who’s more persuasive! What’s more, by taking the time to really understand your friend’s reasoning, you can not only learn something important about your friend but also get a different slant on the issue that you may not have considered before. And you will learn how your own communication affects others, since your partner is probably not the only one who can’t always understand what you’re trying to say or figure out your brand of logic. You’ve attracted this kind of friendship exactly for the purpose of fine tuning your thought processes and becoming more adept and flexible in the ways you have of communicating with others.
Chapter 3: Fulfilling Each Other’s Relationship Needs
These aspects explain how you meet each other’s needs in important business or friendship partnerships. These aspects are based on what your natal chart describes that you’re looking for in any major one-on-one relationship interaction.
Alan McElroy’s Sun Conj Margaret McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Sun:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to develop will and purpose. You stimulate each other toward greater realizations about what you want from life, including lifestyle, where you want to shine, what you want to achieve, how you want to lead and the overall life contribution you wish to make.
You ignite each other’s goodwill and desire to shine and be all that you can be. You’ll bask in the warmth and energy that comes from your friendship although there is a certain amount of pride and stubbornness you’ll also be dealing with. The underlying principle that guides this pattern is to relate from the heart and find the joy in simple things and laugh at the irony. When just thinking things through doesn’t cut it, listen to your heart — it will always give you the best answer. You could outdo each other when given the chance because there’s a bit of competitiveness in this process between you. Keeping the competition healthy will encourage each of you to be the very best you can be. You’re likely to enjoy a variety of games or sports to hone your expertise and to earn praise.
Alan McElroy’s Jupiter Sextile Margaret McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Sun:
Core Themes: The intent of the aspect is to show you the farther reaches of life and what’s possible, should you choose to accept the options. This combination brings joy and an expansive energy of generosity and opportunity. Thirst for adventure and learning, even increased risk-taking, is accentuated. Wisdom is a key value embedded in this aspect.
You can become fast friends and spend most of your time finding that life is a blast. There’s no end to the mischief you can get into. You two appear to enjoy pushing the envelope. Why not do something productive with all that hot air and bravado? Get involved in a cause, a committee or an organization you both philosophically believe in and show the timid ones how to play the game and win. Laughter and fun is certainly part of your repertoire when you’re together and others will enjoy being around your infectious energy. Be careful of overdoing it mentally, physically, emotionally, fiscally and even spiritually, however, because you’ll need to deal with the consequences. And, if you really blow it, it won’t be fun at all. Being all that you can be and encouraging others to push self-limiting boundaries are your special gifts.
Alan McElroy’s Neptune Conj Margaret McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Sun:
Core Themes: The intent of this combination is to increase your awareness of fantasy, illusion, deception, etc, and the role these factors play in your life. The aspect also seeks to teach you how to transform confusion, stress and chaos into peace, sensitivity, faith and inner strength.
Imaginative and dreamy energy is strong between you and you like how you feel around each other. Subtler sensitivities in each of you will be stimulated and heightened by your relationship. You may remind each other of dreams and images either long forgotten or wished for in your imagination. There is a special meeting of minds, emotions and sensibilities between you that is amazing but fragile. Sharing your imaginings and encouraging mutual creative or artistic moments is part of the meaning of this aspect. Having a spiritual commitment that you adhere to will also ground this sensitive energy between you. Volunteer work that aids dysfunction, provides healing or other service work can be an important feature of how you use your energies. It’s quite possible that your interactions are interspersed with art, music and other inspiring and creative activities. It’s even possible that you attend the same church and find yourselves discussing matters of faith and beliefs.
Alan McElroy’s Pluto Sextile Margaret McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Sun:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to bring you more in touch with what moves and motivates you by understanding your reactions. The aspect stimulates you to maximize your potential, increase your empowerment and resources and, learn how be vulnerable and strong at the same time.
You are magnetically attracted to each other’s strong energy, although one of you may be more dominant and bold than the other. You will stir deep issues in each other, or open old wounds, some that you’ve been battling lifelong. You can help to heal these issues with each other or you can make them worse. It all depends on your level of awareness and understanding and the self-honesty of your own psychological processes. No matter what, you are likely to leave a strong and lasting impact on each other. These energies between you can turn to political and social work in your community or they can mean that you discover a special project you want to develop and launch together. The potential is large. Sports are another area where the two of you can discover a passion and healthy competition. One of you may be jealous of the other, which can create feelings of resentment in both of you and spoil the other possibilities these energies offer. Sharing some of your deeper but more negative feelings will actually bond you more closely because you’ll be revealing your authentic selves, without the typical pretense. This aspect can make you loyal friends but tough adversaries.
Margaret McElroy’s Moon Sextile Alan McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Mercury:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to create awareness of the emotional undercurrents of language and how voice tone and inflection can make all the difference in your communication and how others receive it.
The quality of your communication with each other — not so much what you say but how you say it — will be important to the harmony between you. Domestic and family concerns are topics that arise easily when you are together. Problem-solving sensitive issues that one or both of you both feel strongly about will be one of your challenges and can become one of your greatest strengths. Nurturing and creating spaces for development to take place – such as, but not limited to, safe environments for children, teens or women — are possible projects you could support. Whether you feel heard by your friend and whether your opinion is acknowledged are other critical lessons in your friendship.
Margaret McElroy’s Neptune Conj Alan McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Mercury:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to provoke a deeper understanding of your soul’s purpose and the symbolic meaning of the events of your life, including the reason that you are drawn to a particular relationship. A spiritual attitude, faith and compassion are important themes and your relationship will not work at its optimum without these ingredients.
Much of the way you communicate with each other is subliminal or non-verbal, which can be both good and not so good. It all depends on how you are able to handle it. There are subtleties between you that make for a great deal of sensitivity and can create bonds of closeness or, at times, confusion. You can feel mesmerized, hypnotized, dazzled or simply delighted by your friend. You may be unable to clearly define the effect you have on each other. Your energies attract you to the arts, music, theatre, poetry, dance, film and other free-flowing and creative activities. When you are together, you are likely to experience serendipitous events and magical happenings. These are gifts to be cherished and also to remind you that the “reality” you live in is not all there is to life. You may be drawn to community services that help the needy or less fortunate or in other ways offer inspiration to those who suffer. Since you have the capacity to inspire others, it’s easier to pass those sentiments along to others.
Margaret McElroy’s Pluto Sextile Alan McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Mercury:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to push your buttons forcefully; bringing you in touch with your core beliefs, getting you to admit your needs and desires and ultimately, having you understand yourself and others better.
You’ll have a powerful effect on each other’s thinking over the course of your friendship. Make sure that you don’t project past relationships onto your partner. If your partner reminds you of someone from your past, you must realize that your partner is different. It’s unfair to burden your friendship with unresolved past patterns. Work on owning your projections, the fears and insecurities, which you bring to the friendship. No matter what, your relationship engenders strong feelings in each of you, and these will turn the path of the relationship toward a deeper instinctive understanding. To have your relationship be positive, be honest about your feelings as much as you can and speak about them openly. The two of you may enjoy processing feelings, as long as you each feel safe speaking your mind. So, make sure that you create space and time for each of you to express your feelings, no matter what they are, and allow them to be heard.
Margaret McElroy’s Asc. Conj Alan McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Mercury:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to refine the art of communication and interpersonal dynamics within the framework of a close relationship. The aspect encourages the free exchange and sharing of information with others.
Something that one of you says at your first meeting will probably remain memorable and can become a joke that you laugh about in times to come. There’s no question you will have a powerful impact on each other’s thinking. In fact, one of you may want to change the other’s thinking in a particular area and apply too much pressure or try to control the other. Then resistance will build until you two understand and resolve what is happening. Because of the seeming ease in communicating, it will be fairly natural for you to discuss the dynamics of what is happening in your relationship. You will help each other immeasurably in understanding how the words you use help to create the sense of reality by which you live and the responses you get from others.
Margaret McElroy’s MC Square Alan McElroy’s 11th house ruler, Mercury:
Core Themes: The intent of this aspect is to make you aware of the important role of language and communication in the overall successful functioning of your relationship. Communication about goals, priorities and career matters are favored.
How you relate and talk to each other, or your favorite topics of discussion will have some impact on either one or the other’s career. You can help each other with an important career connection or introduction. Perhaps you initially met on the job or through a job-related activity. Balancing career commitments with leisure and at home time is a topic you’ll surely discuss at length. Your friendship will thrive on activities that have a particular goal in mind, or that offer some improvement in your lives or the lives of your family and community. In other words, you can’t help but be alert to and concerned with what is happening around you and beyond you in the community at large. As your friendship grows and develops, you could be drawn even more to becoming active participants in community work, volunteer or otherwise.
Chapter 4: Your Closest Contacts, Your Strongest Themes
This section interprets the closest connections between your charts. The wisdom of this section says that the closest aspects explain the major or central themes of your relationship and the reason you have come together. The nature of these aspects will also define the main activities, interests and patterns that affect your relationship life together.
Notice that, in this section, each paragraph contains both the easier expression of energies and the more challenging ones. Both interpretations are included because these close connections pertain to the central learning curve of your relationship. Based on the premise that the more exact the connection (also the closest energetic contact) between your pair of planets, the more psychologically significant the aspect will be for each of you. This means that you are likely to be strongly influenced by each other in the areas described. Because of this, it will be useful to consider both the easier and more challenging interpretations even though you lead with one of them. You will, from time to time and in various circumstances, probably exhibit some elements of each interpretation, both the easier expressions as well as the more challenging ones. Another thing – it’s possible with both types of aspects that you will have the same challenges but simply respond or react to them in different ways. The goal is to rise to the best possible expression of each combination. This is the learning curve and this bestows the necessary wisdom to develop your relationship.
Margaret McElroy’s Jupiter Trine Alan McElroy’s 4th house cusp (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to reach high and strive to attain your most important dreams. Learning, adventure and wisdom are what you seek.
Easier aspects: Your friendship goes beyond the ordinary. You are seekers when you join your forces. Adventure beckons and your wanderlust is aroused. You may not be globetrotters but you range far and wide in some interest or activity or possibly simply in your eclectic conversations. You enjoy having a goal and will seek to win the acclaim of others with your “can do” attitude. Your enjoyment of life and that winning positive attitude may just be too much to keep to yourselves. Given a bit of encouragement, you can easily turn your energies to coaching young people through sports, teaching what you love and know best or just about anything that catches your fancy. In other words, this is the kind of energy you will want to share and, whether you share with friends and family or whether it spreads to the community, giving is second nature to you.
Challenging aspects: You could have met at work or at work-related activities. Whatever the case, you will help each other in your career concerns. The sky’s the limit when you pool your energies. Watch out world, because you’ll raise the roof, given the chance. Make sure there’s something behind all that spin and pomp and circumstance or else things will quickly fizzle. Do your homework and you’ll be speaking from knowledge rather than shooting from the hip. Sharing your experiences or telling a tale, you want everyone to know what you know and you’ll do anything to get a laugh out of your audience of one or one hundred. If your energies are not channeled into a specific goal, they can easily work randomly or become lazy and opportunistic. That can mean you go overboard, exaggerate or misrepresent your abilities. If this happens, you’ll quickly loose your credibility and your friendship and, instead of laughing, you’ll be frowning.
Alan McElroy’s Venus Conj Margaret McElroy’s Jupiter:
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to enjoy good fortune and affection in your relationships. There is luck or opportunity (not always recognized) that comes with this combination, including the ability to get what you need when you want it.
Challenging aspects: This aspect errs on the side of “too much of a good thing”. Your friendship attracts opportunities and advantages. How you make use of them is important. You may enjoy testing the limits and stretching the boundaries of what’s possible or simply testing the patience of others. Remember the other side of having is giving. Although you may come across many opportunities, unless you give back and give thanks appropriately, you may be labeled a user or opportunist. It’s also important to not take advantage of your friend’s good will and graces. Mutuality is important in any relationship. Always return favors, even in small ways. It shows you recognize that your friend has gone out of his/her way to gift you and it keeps the balance of goodwill in your friendship.
Easier aspects: The genuine warmth and affection you hold for each other is patently obvious. This affection is infectious and yields you the goodwill of others. Your friendship multiplies your opportunities and supports your goals in any arena you choose. Gaining support for projects is much easier, because you somehow make joining with you an advantage and a fun adventure. Something fuels your energy, enthusiasm, and sprit – it could be your faith. You are wealthy in spirit and in a wide network of positive associations and connections. If you use your energies wisely, you could also increase your financial resources. It all depends on your values and what it is you wish to expand.
You are likely to be ambassadors of wisdom and possibility, inspiring others to increase their understanding and their pleasure in life. That life is worth living well and “it’s our birthright” is a belief that you share simply by exuding joy in all your people contacts.
Margaret McElroy’s Sun Sextile Alan McElroy’s Jupiter (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme will be to expand your learning or experience, take advantage of life’s opportunities and, as the poet says, “Catch the joy as it flies”. You will want the good things of life in however you define them and you are willing to take certain risks in order to reach those ends. You will seek adventure and fun with a gregarious, generous nature.
Easier aspects: You will be attracted to the gregarious nature of your friend. A basic element of optimism pervades everything you attempt to accomplish. Enthusiasm is high and nothing seems impossible when the two of you get your heads together. People want to be around you because you manage to put a positive spin on things. You inspire people and you inspire each other. All of this can lead to overdoing and overextending, so be careful of managing your time and energy resources. Because you generate a sense of adventure, it’s possible you will travel, teach or learn together.
Challenging aspects: Your friendship has the draw of adventure and possibilities. However, this aspect between you can lead to the over-optimism that fails to take into account the consequences of action. In other words, it’s easy for you to perceive what you want but fail to notice other very crucial details. It’s just those blind spots that will get you into trouble. Refrain from being glib and spend a bit more time gathering the facts instead of focusing only on what you want from the situation at hand. You will learn wisdom through the lessons of some difficult choices.
Margaret McElroy’s Moon Sextile Alan McElroy’s Mercury (easier aspect):
Core Themes: If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes are quickness to emote and a facility for sincere communication. Engaging with others and the public comes naturally and you will probably have a wide network of friends, acquaintances and associates. You communicate intuitively with a witty way of describing your feelings and mundane experiences. You tend to be honest, humorous and matter-of-fact about the state of your emotions.
Easier aspects: It’s very possible that you will find yourselves talking endlessly about many different topics. If you live at a distance, your phone bills will reflect the general tendency to go on and on. Perhaps at least one of you is a writer or teacher or has a career in communications. At the very least, when you are together, interests will move in the direction of information and awareness of social, cultural and environmental factors. You can solve the world’s problems right in the comfort of your living room. In fact, if you get stimulated or incensed enough, you could easily get involved in voicing your protest or writing a letter to the editor. Your friendship will be far from boring as you move from one interesting topic to the next.
Challenging aspects: Although you are curious and interested in each other and enjoy communicating with each other, there are definitely times when you will clash. There will be times that you are at opposite ends of the spectrum and each of you will wonder just what the other is thinking. These times can be both fruitful and frustrating. The good news is that you are both open to communicating and understanding. Use these natural skills and, at the very least, listen to each other’s viewpoints. You need not agree and, indeed, you may be unable to do so. Still, discovering how your friend has arrived at a particular conclusion can be a very valuable lesson.